and if i must say so myself, i find it quite amazing. or perhaps unusual. if you couldn't tell by my word choice and organization, i am not a member of the love lovers population. now, we could spend several hours, psycho-analyzing the reasons that I am not a love lover type...but let's just decide not to do that.
instead, let's discuss these love lovers. what typically happens is this...guy meets girl, girl and guy begin a relationship, girl and guy fall in love, relationship between girl and guy goes bad, and the true colors of the love lover(s) shine bright. now, when the loving love begins is difficult for me to determine, as i've never been a love lover or even involved with one, for that matter.
now, you might be wondering what the hell the difference between love and love loving is...well, in my humble opinion, it's huge. love is directed at a particular individual and everything that comes along with that individual. it's an admiration for who the person is now, what they believe in, hope for, aspire to be..it's all about the connection and adoration you have with and for another person.
love loving on the other hand, is directed at the emotion itself, the feelings that you get when you are in love, the comfortability that comes along with it, and the love lovers will take that feeling any way that they can get it.
this is where we get to the craziness. how far will a love lover go? incredibly far, i've learned.
those who are in love with someone, of course, mourn the loss of the person in their life, as they once were, how they felt about them, and i'm sure struggle with the thought of the required radio silence (according to experienced lovers) and what follows (or doesn't).
but, the love lovers...they handle it all differently. they want so badly the feelings, the emotions, the "feel-good," that they ignore the rest. they forget it all. put it all aside. they look past what caused the break up or who the person is now, compared to who they were, or EVEN who the person actually is versus who they thought he/she was. to me, it's simply amazing.
now, don't get me wrong, i'm not knocking it...alright, well maybe i'm borderline opposed to the whole idea...but i'm much more intrigued than anything else.
what is it that makes someone lose all rationale? throw all sane thought out the window for the "feel-good?"
maybe there is something out there, something more powerful than love for another...something i've not yet experienced, and something that i will understand only when i do. perhaps it truly is just a lack of experience on my part.
or maybe love lovers are more dependent or weak or various other descriptive words used when psycho-analyzing...
and maybe not. perhaps in a world stock full of forced reality, the love lovers are right. stand tall (or slightly leaning) with heart in hand, think think think hard about the feel good that comes with the love loving and wish and hope and dream, as only a dreamer or a love lover could do....
